Thais admire serenity and regard overt expressions of emotion as immature and unsightly. This is especially true in the case of anger or impatience. If you show anger, you will immediately lose the respect of Thais. Their first reaction will be to laugh at you, in the hope that you too will remind yourself of the absurdity of trying to solve anything in this way. You still have time to smile off your momentary lapse. In Thailand, if you have a point to make, you will have to make it with quiet non-aggressive eloquence and show potential goodwill to the person you are talking to throughout.
Newcomers to Thailand are sometimes shocked when Thais convey bad news, such as the death of a parent, with their faces wreathed in broad smiles. For Thais, showing a smiling face to other people, no matter what your personal problems, is a basic kindness and a mark of emotional maturity. They are made very uneasy by what they see as the curiously miserable or scowling faces of Westerners. This doesn’t mean Thais don’t have the same sorrows and sensitivities as the rest of us.
Yeah as i said. Eventhough it's "Land of smiles" we too get upset with same reasons that you do. But you'll find the way people here deal with anger in some strange ways.. like pretendning not to hear you when you shout "So where is my ticket?!" or slowing down everything when you ask them to be fast.. etc..etc
So "Jai-Yen" (cool-hearted) you'll get what you want anyway just be patient.
I'm sure you know this already as it's a common sense. Getting mad at people won't bring you anywhere. For example some travel agents are amazingly slow to organize things you ask for. Best is to deal with them with a serious tone of voice not yelling or shouting (Well, unless they yell at you first which doesn't happen often) Everytime I join the trips with big groups of travellers there's ALWAYS someone got upset and stated to yell at someone to make him feel better.
Louder you yell, more they will ignore you. That's a fact.
Have you wondered why they call Thailand the land of smiles...
The most important lesson I have learned about Thailand is to NEVER EVER lose your cool or get angry in public.
I bet in every holiday you come across a couple of situations where someone or something just pisses you off or you get into an argument.
BUT in thailand showing such emotion will only mean lost of face. And at best it will be a phyric victory.
My best advice is to just smile. When you smile you can't get angry and it's easier to keep your cool. A lot of thais will when they are in an argument try and provoke a foreigner to an emotional outburt. But if you stay cool and polite..they'll mostly give-in. And if they themselves turn emotional..you have basically won the argument.
They call thailand the land of smiles.It's true people love to smile. It's unfair to call it fake, but the smile is the easiest way to hide your emotions. And the thai makes use of this often to hide there real emotions.
In other countries you could look like an idiot..but in Thailand it's normal. So my best advice is to always keep your cool and just smile.
On my second visit to Thailand I travelled alone for the first time. This turned out to be one of the best experiences and times of my life.
On of the main things that travelling alone forces you to do, is get associated with the local people. On the last trip I had my brother to buffer me because of his previous knowledge of Thailand.
I had a great time meeting the locals in Bangkok and Koh Samui, not to mention in between. This continued on for me even when I was with my local girl, as we weren't staying in an area where many Westerners seemed to stay. She helped me with learning some new (to me) local customs and language, and this can only help my next time.
DO- smile! Thailand is renowned as the land of smiles, and the locals are generally happy people, embrace this!
DON'T- get angry. Always take a deep breath and don't become confrontational. This just doesn't happen in Thailand, and many see it as a sign of weakness.
DO- sample the local cusine! If you don't try out the local Thai food then you really will be missing out. It is gorgeous, and CHEAP!
DON'T- drink tap water. The water system here is not great, and even the locals rarely indulge. With bottled water being so cheap, this shouldn't pose any problems.
DO- be confident. Do not allow yourself to be pressured in to doing something you don't want to. For example if a tuk tuk driver is hassling you for a lift you do not want, then don't go.
DON'T- be rude! Remember, however annoying it can become turning down taxi driver after taxi driver, they are only trying to earn a living. Just smile and say no thankyou, and they will appreciate this much more.
A couple of recommendations;
Remember you’re in a Buddhist country and it is appropriate to give money to the poor and the elderly who ask for alms on the street. Do as the Romans do – give. A dollar can feed someone for a day or longer here
In Thailand, almost everything in life involves a smile, even blunders and mishaps. Westerners often mistake this for being laughed at. For example, if a waitress forgets an order and laughs, she is not showing contempt, just making the best of a bad situation. If you complain, do so gracefully as anger usually gets you nowhere.
The Thai people are the most charming people I have met. When bargaining please try to remember to smile and do not get angry. On previous experience, my husband has made several good buys for less than he expected just by having a sense of humour. The Thai people love humour and appreciate a smile.
The flight attendants on Thai Airways wear traditional outfits made of gorgeous silk. The legendary Thai politeness is well in evidence in their service. This was their newest 747 and they were obviously proud of it.
Thai people are nice, friendly and (almost) always smiling. They are really kind, as I could see after meeting some VT members from Bangkok.
In the pic you can see me with Winston the day after I arrived.
Outward expressions of anger are regarded as crude and boorish. Remaining calm and hiding your emotions with a smile is far more productive.