Not really a custom but it is practicised...
Prostitution is a big part of Thailand's culture and unfortunately it is the way of life for many a Bar girl. Thai wages are relatively low compared to most countries and these poor ladies have to make a living by making a life for themselves by offering themselves to a foreigner.
Guys from many nations come here and many Thai women are very surprised on how quickly it takes a male to fall in love with them. Yeah, to a male they would seem pretty cute, they are smaller than most woman and they always seem happy to see you no matter who you are. But as a female who has been to Pattaya,
I kind of felt sorry for a lot of them and while I knew two personally and got to know them as a female friend, I learnt that they didn’t usually liked their job, it was a job to them and they were often making money so they could support their families who lived out in the country or found it hard to get by.
“Hello my Big Big Honey” is a great book to read. It is interesting as it is informative and allows the reader to look at some of the letters that Girls in Thailand (mainly in Bangkok) write to their ‘boyfriends’ when they are back in their own countries and vice versa. Some tales are happy ones, while others show sad stories of mixed emotions between the cultures. The woman like the book says “seem passive but are capable of fighting back” and men who are sometimes totally besotted with these girls that they offer marriage and can often become “so obsessed they cannot let go”.
To find a copy of “Hello my Big Big Honey” check out anyone of the local bookshops in Pattaya and around Thailand itself. Bookazine has a lot of great books for all interests and this one can be found in the Thailand guide section along with many other books written on the same sort of Genre.
Hello my Big Big Honey, Love letters to Bangkok Bar Girls and their revealing interviews ~ Collected by Dave Walker and Richard S. Ehrlich
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When spending a night at the best friend complex watching the muay thai, the boxers will walk around the diffrent bars after their bout looking for you too show your appreciation(money)I was taken back a bit by this at first, but you are under no obligation to give them anything,however 20-30 baht is unlikely to break a "farangs"holiday budget.